Treating depression in adolescents

Depression is not a sign of weakness, it is a sign that you have been strong for too long  ~ Unknown

 

Depression is very damaging when left untreated, so don’t wait and hope that the symptoms will go away. If you see depression’s warning signs, seek professional help. A person can have mild, moderate, or severe major depression. If there are no health problems that are causing your teenager’s depression, ask your doctor to refer you to a psychologist or psychiatrist who specializes in children and adolescents. Depression in teens can be tricky, particularly when it comes to treatment options such as medication. Adolescents with mild or moderate depression are usually treated with counselling alone. If the depressive symptoms do not begin to improve within 6 to 12 weeks, or if symptoms worsen, an antidepressant medication may be recommended. Adolescents with severe depression generally require counselling in addition to one or more medications. Treatment with medication and counselling increases the likelihood of improved symptoms and relationships with family and friends; it can also improve self-confidence and the ability to cope effectively. Depression is a treatable condition. Psychotherapy (counselling), drug therapy, and other measures can alleviate symptoms and help adolescents to succeed in school, develop and maintain healthy relationships, and feel more self-confident. In adolescents, treatment for depression is most successful when the parents are involved. Learning about depression is an important component of depression treatment. Family education is also important before decisions are made about the adolescent's treatment plan.

Myths and Facts about adolescent depression

You should know by now that when I smile and say "yeah, I'm fine", it's really code for "no, I'm not okay” …….and I feel like my world is crashing down around me

  ~  The voice of a teenager

Depression is more than feeling “blue" or feeling “blah." It is more than normal feelings of sadness. When someone feels “down" or sad for more than a few weeks, they may be clinically depressed. Clinical depression is serious and it affects every part of the person and every part of their lives. The person's feelings, behaviours, health, and even the way they look might start to change. When a person is depressed, it can be very hard for them to handle everyday things, make decisions, and handle pressures. Depression is not a passing mood, and it is not a sign of weakness. It is an illness that can be treated successfully by a counsellor, psychologist, psychiatrist, or other mental health professional. These providers have been trained to help people who are feeling this way. Going to see one of them doesn't mean you're crazy. A mental health provider is not going to lock you up in a hospital. In fact, that hardly ever happens. What these professionals do is find the right way to help you feel better in the easiest way possible. There are some myths surrounding teenage depression, just as we covered myths regarding adult depression. Myths about depression often times prevent people from doing the right thing. 

Symptoms of depression and suicide in adolescents

When you asked me what was wrong I said “nothing”……. After you left I whispered everything  ~  The voice of a teenager

 

Depression in adolescence comes at a time of great personal change – when boys and girls are forming an identity distinct from their parents, grappling with gender issues and emerging sexuality, and making decisions for the first time in their lives. Depression is a medical condition that can cause a wide variety of psychological and physical symptoms. The exact cause of depression is not known. Studies suggest that depression is a biologic disorder resulting, at least in part, from an imbalance of neurochemicals in the brain, including serotonin, norepinephrine, and dopamine. These neurochemicals allow cells in the brain to communicate with each other and play an essential role in all brain functions, including movement, sensation, memory, and emotions. This interaction is supported by studies demonstrating the benefit of antidepressants, which help restore the neurochemical balance in the brain. Teenage depression is more than the occasional bad mood and sadness. It is a serious problem, which affects every aspect of a teen’s life. If left untreated, teen depression can lead to problems at home and school, drug abuse, self-loathing—even irreversible tragedy such as homicidal violence or suicide. Teens who are seriously depressed often think, speak, or make "attention-getting" attempts at suicide. An alarming and increasing number of teenagers attempt and succeed at suicide, so suicidal thoughts or behaviours should always be taken very seriously. Suicide is the third leading cause of death for adolescents 15 to 19 years old. However, depression in adolescents is probably underdiagnosed because the symptoms can be difficult to recognize. Depression is different than occasional blues and grief because depression is persistent and often interferes with the teen's ability to get along with parents and friends, complete school work, and appropriately participate in other normal daily activities. Depression is a treatable condition. Psychotherapy (counselling), drug therapy, and other measures can alleviate symptoms and help the adolescent to succeed in school, develop and maintain healthy relationships, and feel more self-confident.

Depression in Adolescence

Have you ever felt so alone and nothing makes sense? Well that's how I feel right now I feel like I'm facing everything by myself, with nothing but tears and a fake smile  ~ The voice of a teenager

 

Teenage depression isn’t just bad moods and occasional melancholy. Depression is a serious problem that impacts every aspect of a teen’s life. Left untreated, teen depression can lead to problems at home and school, drug abuse, self-loathing—even irreversible tragedy such as homicidal violence or suicide. There are as many misconceptions about teen depression as there are about teenagers in general. Yes, the teen years are tough, but most teens balance the requisite angst with good friendships, success in school or outside activities, and the development of a strong sense of self. Occasional bad moods or acting out is to be expected, but depression is something different. Depression can destroy the very essence of a teenager’s personality, causing an overwhelming sense of sadness, despair, or anger. Many depressed teens may not even realize that they are suffering from depression. For example, teen depression often manifests itself in attitudes and behaviours that lead the depressed teen to be categorized as a "bad kid," a normal teen just passing through a "phase”.

Do’s and Don’ts while counselling a suicidal person

When we experience conflict or dissatisfaction in our relationships, we are being called on to develop something in ourselves that is weak, hidden, or unknown  ~ Jett Psaris and Marlena Lyons.

 

It is important to know that this is something that happens sometimes and people do go through such depths of misery. So, what does a counsellor do to tackle this delicate issue? It is important that the counsellor not be judgemental and use personal or religious beliefs to impose disdain on the client. The client has a right to be in charge of their destiny. They must be aware of all the symptoms and signs of a person feeling suicidal. Some of the important things a counsellor must do is:

Suicide Prevention

Although the world is full of suffering, it is also full of the overcoming of it  ~ Unknown 

 

Suicide is not chosen; it happens when pain exceeds resources for coping with pain. If you spot the warning signs of suicide in someone you care about, you may wonder if it’s a good idea to say anything. What if you’re wrong? What if the person gets angry? In such situations, it's natural to feel uncomfortable or afraid. But anyone who talks about suicide or shows other warning signs needs immediate help—the sooner the better. Talking to a friend or family member about their suicidal thoughts and feelings can be extremely difficult for anyone. But if you're unsure whether someone is suicidal, the best way to find out is to ask. You can't make a person suicidal by showing that you care. In fact, giving a suicidal person the opportunity to express his or her feelings can provide relief from loneliness and pent-up negative feelings, and may prevent a suicide attempt. Teenage suicide is a serious and growing problem. The teenage years can be emotionally turbulent and stressful. Teenagers face pressures to succeed and fit in. They may struggle with self-esteem issues, self-doubt, and feelings of alienation. For some, this leads to suicide. Depression is also a major risk factor for teen suicide. The highest suicide rates of any age group occur among persons aged 65 years and older. One contributing factor is depression in the elderly that is undiagnosed and untreated. There are 2 broad ways of helping a person who wants to commit suicide. 1. Finding a way to help reduce the pain and 2. Finding a way to help  increase his/ her coping resources. Below are some of the important things a counsellor must always remember and do while relating with such people.

Common myths about suicidal behaviour

I therefore claim to show, not how men think in myths, but how myths operate in men's minds without their being aware of the fact ~  Claude Levi-Strauss

 

Suicidal individuals have greater environmental burdens than their non suicidal peers including histories of abuse, interpersonal relationship problems, family disorders, exposure to overwhelming chronic stress. Coupled with depressive moods these people have an increased chance of suicidal tendencies. The additional feeling of hopelessness arising from the burdens of life is an even strong predictor of suicidal risk than depression alone. Identifying risk factors associated with suicidal behaviour is critical to the counsellor’s clinical decision making. Risk assessment by the counsellor is of paramount importance to reduce the chances of suicide. The counsellor has to watch out for the warning signs as already discussed earlier. Counsellors play a vital role in the prevention of child and adolescent suicide. When a child or youth becomes suicidal, they are trying to communicate their difficulties in coping with stress and life as a whole. Among adolescents alcohol and substance abuse significantly increase the risk of suicide during times of distress. Suicides among elderly individuals can be reduced if counsellors are aware of the suicidal messages. Almost 70% of elderly persons who commit suicide have been known to share their suicidal ideations with a family member or someone else before committing the fatal act.

When depression becomes suicide

Behind my smile is everything you’ll never understand  ~  Unknown

 

There are many kinds of pain that may lead to suicide. Whether or not the pain is bearable may differ from person to person. What might be bearable to someone else, may not be bearable to another. The point at which the pain becomes unbearable depends on what kinds of coping resources you have. Individuals vary greatly in their capacity to withstand pain. Suicide results from a complex interaction of biological, genetic, psychological, cultural, sociological and environmental factors. Depression is a major risk factor for suicide. The deep despair and hopelessness that goes along with depression can make suicide feel like the only way to escape the pain. Thoughts of death or suicide are a serious symptom of depression, so take any suicidal talk or behaviour seriously. It's not just a warning sign that the person is thinking about suicide: it's a cry for help. A suicidal person may not ask for help, but that doesn't mean that help isn't wanted. Most people who commit suicide don't want to die—they just want to stop hurting. Suicide prevention starts with recognizing the warning signs and taking them seriously. If you think a friend or family member is considering suicide, you might be afraid to bring up the subject. But talking openly about suicidal thoughts and feelings can save a life. Speak up if you're concerned and seek professional help immediately! Through understanding, reassurance, and support, you can help your loved one overcome thoughts of suicide. Suicide is neither wrong nor right; it is not a defect of character; it is morally neutral. It is simply an imbalance of pain versus coping resources.

Depression : Its Faces and Facets

I don't know what I want in life. I don't know what I want right now. All I know is that I'm hurting so much inside that it's eating me, and one day, there won't be any of me left  ~ Unknown

 

Depression usually isn't caused by one event or reason, but is usually the result of several factors. Causes vary from person to person. Depression can be caused by lowered levels of neurotransmitters (chemicals that carry signals through the nervous system) in the brain, which limits a person's ability to feel good. Serotonin is a neurotransmitter that plays an important role in the biochemistry of depression, bipolar disorder and anxiety disorders. This neurotransmitter regulates the onset of sleep, sensory perception, mood, body temperature, hyperacusis (sensitivity to sound) and photophobia (light sensitivity). Low serotonin is associated with increased carbohydrate cravings, depression, pain, tenderness, and restless sleep. Prolonged stress consumes the levels of serotonin and can cause mood disorders, anxiety disorders, or migraine. Stimulants such as caffeine, refined carbohydrates, chocolate, sugar and stimulants such as cold remedies, alcohol, drugs, diet pills, and tobacco can also lead to reduced levels of serotonin in the brain. In the case of mood disorders, anxiety disorders or migraine, a combination of antidepressants and other prescription drugs. The long-term use of these medications can cause serotonin syndrome.

Symptoms of Depression

Every time someone asks me if I’m ok, its just a reminder that I’m not. I’m crying inside and no one knows it but me...   ~ Unknown

 

Feeling down from time to time is a normal part of life. But when emptiness and despair take hold and won't go away, it may be depression. More than just the temporary "blues," the lows of depression make it tough to function and enjoy life like you once did. Hobbies and friends don’t interest you like they used to; you’re exhausted all the time; and just getting through the day can be overwhelming. When you’re depressed, things may feel hopeless, but with help and support you can get better. But first, you need to understand depression. Learning about depression—including its signs, symptoms, causes, and treatment—is the first step to overcoming the problem.

Feelings, Emotions and Depression

In the midst of winter, I finally learned that there was in me an invincible summer ~ Albert Camus

 

Feelings come about in a response to an action or event. The more radical or dramatic the event, the more drastic is the feeling. If feelings are pushed down or suppressed, they don’t just go away or disappear. Sometimes due to lack of ability to identify feelings or in an attempt to not acknowledge them we say “I’m fine”. Feelings are not right or wrong, they just are. We need to identify the feelings, own them and lastly process them. All humans have basic emotional needs. These needs can be expressed as feelings, for example the need to feel accepted, respected and important. While all humans share these needs, each differs in the strength of the need, just as some of us need more water, more food or more sleep. One person may need more freedom and independence, another may need more security and social connections. One may have a greater curiosity and a greater need for understanding, while another is content to accept whatever he has been told. If they are very strong emotions we are feeling, a lack of acknowledgment or attention to it , will make them manifest into depression.

Building a relationship

How few there are who have courage enough to own their faults, or resolution enough to mend them  ~ Benjamin Franklin

 

Seeking counselling takes a lot of courage. To admit that there is a problem not only to yourself, but to another also takes a lot of courage. It is important therefore to create a strong, safe, comfortable environment. Many people are very apprehensive about the first meeting. It is important for the counsellor to set up an office conducive to welcoming and making a client feel relaxed. Breaking the ice, being open, honest and welcoming, building trust, boundary issues such as contracts and terminations should all be given adequate attention to.

Qualities a counsellor must possess

I want, by understanding myself, to understand others. I want to be all that I am capable of becoming. ~ Katherine Mansfield

 

To be effective in your endeavour to be a counsellor, there are certain qualities you must possess. Counselling is a two way street. It is a cooperative effort of both parties to come to effective solutions. It also takes a certain amount of commitment to make changes on part of the person being counselled. What is expected to be achieved by the end of the sessions is something that has to be clearly defined in the mind of the counsellor. How would you do this? What are the qualities and attitude you must possess to achieve your goals and the ones set for a person receiving guidance? How would you build a healthy good and honest relationship? To help a person making changes in their life, you have to be able to observe and pinpoint the possible obstacles in the way.

Understanding Ourselves

Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves ~ Carl Jung

 

There are many things to be understood about ourselves when we want to delve into understanding others and being of any use to them. There are many facets of our own life that we must come to terms with before we start looking into others lives. There are many innermost questions which have to be answered about ourselves by ourselves. We have to have complete clarity and awareness of our own thinking before we embark on this journey. This is essential because we must develop a non judgemental attitude about everything, even about ourselves and have complete acceptance of who we are as human beings. This has to assessed so that one manages to see himself or herself clearly, see the opinions we make and the attitude and tolerance we have towards ourselves. Then we can go on further to help others.

The making of a character

Knowledge will give you power, but character respect  ~ Bruce Lee

 

When we assess ourselves we are finding our true self. In the process we also find our values and principles that make us who we are. Our principles are fundamentally important and defined by our character. We tend to recognize something of ourselves in others at a very basic level. Personality is the outer persona that we show the world. Character is he inner core of someone and represents the principles and values they live by. A person may have a great personality, but a rotten character and vice versa. One can fake a personality but not character. Character is harder to spot but can be seen in the way people treat themselves and others. It is made and earned through living and learning life’s lessons. You can never give up trying to be a better human being.

Courage to change

“Carpe Diem” ~ Seize the day!!

 

To become the person we want to, we have to have the courage to change, not only thoughts but attitude as well. In order to bring in something more constructive and new into our life, it means we have to drop something which may not be as important or constructive. To review our life, helps us to get focus on things that are important to us, things we can dispose from our lives and the things we can’t. Like maybe just as an example, watching TV. A lot of us spend hours in front of it. It isn’t known as the idiot box for no reason. We can try and curb our schedule in front of the TV, for something better we want in our life. Make constructive use of our time. Time once lost will never come back. We don’t have to make drastic or tough changes. It takes time for the mind and body to adjust, we can go slow and give ourselves time, but just enough.

The Universe and You

Reality is merely an illusion, albeit a very persistent one ~ Albert Einstein

 

To understand ourselves we have to understand our connection with the universe. We are a part of it and therefore subject to its laws. Simple. We were created from the universe one day, and we will get reabsorbed by it one day. We are made of up of the same matter and energy found in everything else on this universe. The elements that make up our bodies and all other matter on earth originated within the stars like our sun. Whether is it the solar system, the stars, the earth, the trees, anything and everything. Everything in the universe is interconnected. We don’t realise the extent and magnitude of the words: We are one. In the truest sense of the words. Elements on the earth are recycled and for all you know, you may have particles of something that lived and walked the earth some million years ago. Water has been recycled over and over. The world around us is ever changing and interacting. The universe creates us, preserves us and then destroys us. We must relate to this fact with humility, awe, celebration and search for deeper understanding.

Change Within

A man is but a product of his thoughts. What he thinks, he becomes ~ Gandhi

 

Most of us are careful about the messages we take in. We're selective about the music we listen to, the television shows we watch, and the people we solicit opinions from.
But what about the messages that play every day inside our heads? Is that inner voice saying things that are uplifting, positive and healthy? Can we identify these thoughts? Are they full of stress? Even when we aren't fully listening, our internal tape is playing just at the edge of our awareness, like background music in a store. The messages that it gives, and the frequency at which they are repeated, powerfully influence our physical health and the amount of satisfaction we feel with our daily lives. If your internal messages are full of stress and disquieting thoughts, it's no surprise that you will be, too. Many of us carry limiting beliefs about ourselves throughout our lives.

Learning Process

Getting involved with an organisation will help build skills, empathy and compassion. It could be an old age home, an orphanage, a hospital, a school. Everyone appreciates a volunteer and who doesn’t need one. Many people are bored, lonely, in pain and really need someone to reach out to them. Some of these places may never be getting visitors.

Habits

Counselling is a systematic process. Coping with any sort of trauma, isn’t easy. There are many subjects that need to be covered when we counsel. It is important to understand and analyse our lifestyle, a subject we usually take for granted and tend to overlook. When we try to assess a situation, there are many things we have to review. Not only how the mind works, but also what a person’s habits are. What are our patterns and is that counter productive, without us realising. Very often of course, we think we are doing things the correct way, or we are resigned to the fact that : this is the way i am, but that does not mean it is acceptable and should be ignored. What then are the things that must be reviewed too, apart from the body language and state of mind? Don’t we all want to be productive, mentally sharp, emotionally balanced, and full of energy all day long?

What is Counselling?

The terms advice, guidance and counselling are often interchanged by most people, including me. I would never have thought that there was a huge difference between the words: Advice, guidance and counselling, till I read about them. While they all are processes which are evolved to provide a solution to a problem in a person’s life, it is important to understand the difference between them. What I discovered was very interesting.

The Beginning…

Over many years and serendipitous meetings over coffee, tea and even just like that, i realised that we all have such a fantastic depth inside us that its overwhelming sometimes. There is a complete another universe inside each one of us which is even more vast than the one you see with your eyes. The planets inside are so many emotions we feel. Each one is so clearly defined that its a mystery to me, just as are Saturn’s beautiful rings.

I met so many people and we discussed so many things. This blog is just one with many questions, many thoughts, most which i probably share with all of you out there.

Want to join me and help me discover what this world inside is all about?