Do’s and Don’ts while counselling a suicidal person

When we experience conflict or dissatisfaction in our relationships, we are being called on to develop something in ourselves that is weak, hidden, or unknown  ~ Jett Psaris and Marlena Lyons.

 

It is important to know that this is something that happens sometimes and people do go through such depths of misery. So, what does a counsellor do to tackle this delicate issue? It is important that the counsellor not be judgemental and use personal or religious beliefs to impose disdain on the client. The client has a right to be in charge of their destiny. They must be aware of all the symptoms and signs of a person feeling suicidal. Some of the important things a counsellor must do is:

Suicide Prevention

Although the world is full of suffering, it is also full of the overcoming of it  ~ Unknown 

 

Suicide is not chosen; it happens when pain exceeds resources for coping with pain. If you spot the warning signs of suicide in someone you care about, you may wonder if it’s a good idea to say anything. What if you’re wrong? What if the person gets angry? In such situations, it's natural to feel uncomfortable or afraid. But anyone who talks about suicide or shows other warning signs needs immediate help—the sooner the better. Talking to a friend or family member about their suicidal thoughts and feelings can be extremely difficult for anyone. But if you're unsure whether someone is suicidal, the best way to find out is to ask. You can't make a person suicidal by showing that you care. In fact, giving a suicidal person the opportunity to express his or her feelings can provide relief from loneliness and pent-up negative feelings, and may prevent a suicide attempt. Teenage suicide is a serious and growing problem. The teenage years can be emotionally turbulent and stressful. Teenagers face pressures to succeed and fit in. They may struggle with self-esteem issues, self-doubt, and feelings of alienation. For some, this leads to suicide. Depression is also a major risk factor for teen suicide. The highest suicide rates of any age group occur among persons aged 65 years and older. One contributing factor is depression in the elderly that is undiagnosed and untreated. There are 2 broad ways of helping a person who wants to commit suicide. 1. Finding a way to help reduce the pain and 2. Finding a way to help  increase his/ her coping resources. Below are some of the important things a counsellor must always remember and do while relating with such people.

Common myths about suicidal behaviour

I therefore claim to show, not how men think in myths, but how myths operate in men's minds without their being aware of the fact ~  Claude Levi-Strauss

 

Suicidal individuals have greater environmental burdens than their non suicidal peers including histories of abuse, interpersonal relationship problems, family disorders, exposure to overwhelming chronic stress. Coupled with depressive moods these people have an increased chance of suicidal tendencies. The additional feeling of hopelessness arising from the burdens of life is an even strong predictor of suicidal risk than depression alone. Identifying risk factors associated with suicidal behaviour is critical to the counsellor’s clinical decision making. Risk assessment by the counsellor is of paramount importance to reduce the chances of suicide. The counsellor has to watch out for the warning signs as already discussed earlier. Counsellors play a vital role in the prevention of child and adolescent suicide. When a child or youth becomes suicidal, they are trying to communicate their difficulties in coping with stress and life as a whole. Among adolescents alcohol and substance abuse significantly increase the risk of suicide during times of distress. Suicides among elderly individuals can be reduced if counsellors are aware of the suicidal messages. Almost 70% of elderly persons who commit suicide have been known to share their suicidal ideations with a family member or someone else before committing the fatal act.

When depression becomes suicide

Behind my smile is everything you’ll never understand  ~  Unknown

 

There are many kinds of pain that may lead to suicide. Whether or not the pain is bearable may differ from person to person. What might be bearable to someone else, may not be bearable to another. The point at which the pain becomes unbearable depends on what kinds of coping resources you have. Individuals vary greatly in their capacity to withstand pain. Suicide results from a complex interaction of biological, genetic, psychological, cultural, sociological and environmental factors. Depression is a major risk factor for suicide. The deep despair and hopelessness that goes along with depression can make suicide feel like the only way to escape the pain. Thoughts of death or suicide are a serious symptom of depression, so take any suicidal talk or behaviour seriously. It's not just a warning sign that the person is thinking about suicide: it's a cry for help. A suicidal person may not ask for help, but that doesn't mean that help isn't wanted. Most people who commit suicide don't want to die—they just want to stop hurting. Suicide prevention starts with recognizing the warning signs and taking them seriously. If you think a friend or family member is considering suicide, you might be afraid to bring up the subject. But talking openly about suicidal thoughts and feelings can save a life. Speak up if you're concerned and seek professional help immediately! Through understanding, reassurance, and support, you can help your loved one overcome thoughts of suicide. Suicide is neither wrong nor right; it is not a defect of character; it is morally neutral. It is simply an imbalance of pain versus coping resources.

Depression : Its Faces and Facets

I don't know what I want in life. I don't know what I want right now. All I know is that I'm hurting so much inside that it's eating me, and one day, there won't be any of me left  ~ Unknown

 

Depression usually isn't caused by one event or reason, but is usually the result of several factors. Causes vary from person to person. Depression can be caused by lowered levels of neurotransmitters (chemicals that carry signals through the nervous system) in the brain, which limits a person's ability to feel good. Serotonin is a neurotransmitter that plays an important role in the biochemistry of depression, bipolar disorder and anxiety disorders. This neurotransmitter regulates the onset of sleep, sensory perception, mood, body temperature, hyperacusis (sensitivity to sound) and photophobia (light sensitivity). Low serotonin is associated with increased carbohydrate cravings, depression, pain, tenderness, and restless sleep. Prolonged stress consumes the levels of serotonin and can cause mood disorders, anxiety disorders, or migraine. Stimulants such as caffeine, refined carbohydrates, chocolate, sugar and stimulants such as cold remedies, alcohol, drugs, diet pills, and tobacco can also lead to reduced levels of serotonin in the brain. In the case of mood disorders, anxiety disorders or migraine, a combination of antidepressants and other prescription drugs. The long-term use of these medications can cause serotonin syndrome.

Symptoms of Depression

Every time someone asks me if I’m ok, its just a reminder that I’m not. I’m crying inside and no one knows it but me...   ~ Unknown

 

Feeling down from time to time is a normal part of life. But when emptiness and despair take hold and won't go away, it may be depression. More than just the temporary "blues," the lows of depression make it tough to function and enjoy life like you once did. Hobbies and friends don’t interest you like they used to; you’re exhausted all the time; and just getting through the day can be overwhelming. When you’re depressed, things may feel hopeless, but with help and support you can get better. But first, you need to understand depression. Learning about depression—including its signs, symptoms, causes, and treatment—is the first step to overcoming the problem.